Children laugh on average 300 times a day. Adults...5.
I don't really know why. Maybe it's our additional responsibilities. How much time do I spend worrying about the future instead of focusing on right now?
I suspect I have another 10-20 big changes left in me. I get passionate about something new at least once a year.
As for small changes, I try to make them every day. Or I lose practice.
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Saying “No” to a change that’s begging for you, will kill you. I think I would've died in 2009 without change.
Benjamin Franklin said, “most people die at 25 but are buried at 75.”
Who wants to spend 50 years dead?
You can’t ask the world to change… you have to change first.
When you start a new change, here is what happens. Well, I have no clue what happens to you. Here is what happens to me.
FEAR.
I get scared.
What will happen to me? I’ll go broke! Or be lonely! Or get sick! Or nobody will like what I am doing!
Practice dealing with uncertainty is the only way to get comfortable with this fear.
Everything is either an obstacle to growth, or an obstacle to keep
you from growing. The good thing is: you get to choose.
ARGUMENTS.
Bosses won’t want you to quit. Colleagues will get scared because it means change is forced on them. And depending on
your change, maybe family is unhappy (when I was thrown out of school, my family was certainly unhappy).
Whoever wrote your script will be unhappy. You’re changing the movie.
There’s NOTHING to say to the people who argue with you. Because they are right also. In their life situations, it’s very right for THEM for you not to quit. Why argue with them? Conserve your energy for your change, not for the weights on your back
that will try to hold you down.
GUILT.
Let’s say you are leaving a relationship or a job or an agreement. I can tell you: someone is ready to make you feel
guilty about this.
It’s hard not to feel guilt, particularly if someone is sad because of “what you are doing to them”.
But much worse is the guilt you will feel if you don’t make the change your body and the universe is telling you to make. The
universe is much bigger than the person on the other side. To go against that flow will make you sink and drown.
TEARS.
I don’t think I’ve ever once made a change in my life that didn’t involve me crying either on the day of the big change or
sometime that week. Why cry? Isn’t that a bit wimpy?
Change is very lonely.
But you will never be lonely if you enjoy being with the person you are alone with. (I love this)
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None of the above sounds that great actually. So why change at all?
PREVENT MUSCLE ATROPHY
When a car doesn’t start all winter, the engine will get ruined. When you don’t walk for two weeks, your leg muscles
atrophy and you need physical therapy to walk. Change is a muscle.
STEEP FEELS GOOD
When you change you go from a flattening learning curve (your old situation) to a steep learning curve (the new situation).
Steep learning curves feel good. Do you like the feeling of touching a new curve?
YOU WERE IN THE WRONG SCRIPT.
At every stage of our lives, the people around us try to write our scripts. When we are young the script your family writes you might be: school, cubicle, promotions, management, CEO, retirement,
death. But you might realize that the right script for you didn’t include “cubicle”.
You have to rewrite your script.
If you stay in the old script it’s like acting in a role that is not written for you.
You want to be in a work of art, not a forgery or a plagiarism.
PLAY.
When we were kids we played different games all the time. We would never play the same game for 300 days in a row, for 20
years in a row.
But then we got handed our “scripts” by our parents, schools, political parties, jobs, institutions, etc. We were told to stick to
the script.
But we never stopped being the boy or girl who wanted to play.
AND THEN...
Getting good at change (big, small, tiny – every day) means getting good at life.
Do it without expectation. Wish for nothing. Care for everything.
Happiness will be in between.
(Photo by Crystian Cruz )
So this article was written by one of my favorite writers, James Altucher, will do you good to read some of his works. I love it mainly because it's speaking directly to us and not to the attachments in our lives say, jobs, relationships, money(and he talks about money a lot),it tells me what's most important and what most attention should be paid to, ME.
Perfect 'welcome to 2015' article. Love love it.
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