If we're being honest, it goes both ways. Women want someone who can take care of them financially, emotionally and in every way possible. So men too have every reason to want a woman who can rise up to the challenge, handle his worries, frustrations and concerns. No harm here. The only time issues arise is if said person has no other interest asides the financial gains. This is where the proverbial kasala will burst.
Pathetic as this is (in my opinion), I think it's left to the 'victim'(because if you welcome these kind of people into your life, I'm sorry, you haven't found love, you're just prey) to get their heads out of the clouds and develop skills for filtering the real from the fake.
We have people who alter their lifestyle while dating to give their love interest the impression that they're not so well off. I wouldn't advise anyone to go that far. The magic is in body language. If you've been around human beings long enough, you should be able to decipher genuine from faux interest.
Another category of 'victims' is made up of those who are actively dating/courting people who are on the lookout for a rich man or woman. These ones need to be super careful because they feel they need to up their game to be taken seriously by their boyfriend or girlfriend meanwhile they're only being used to pass time so when the desired person comes along, they're discarded like trash. What follows is despair and maybe depression because you wonder why they didn't pick you. I've seen people in this situation and I can say it's not pretty.
I remember during the tenure of Goodluck Jonathan, there was this female Special Assistant who was in her 40s, that got hitched to this fine young man. Not long after the president was voted out, the husband filed for divorce. He probably left because of something else but I feel it must have been because he didn't find her as useful anymore.
We have young men who leave their wife and kids to marry some rich woman somewhere. In this case, the blame is to be equally divided between both parties.
I notice children of high ranking members of society getting married during their parents time in power, nothing wrong there, I even heard you'd get more gifts when you marry then which is pretty cool. What isn't cool is marrying wrong just because you're working in line with finding Mr right before daddy's tenure expires😩.
In conclusion, I think it boils down to what we all want. Some don't care, some do. I know I wouldn't want to have a companion who would find me useless when money goes because as we always say, "nothing is permanent".
